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Societal Norms vs The Nonconformist

I've always had the feeling that I was different, even from a young age. Instead of dressing my dolls up, I was creating soap operas with them. When all of the kids were reading Captain Underpants and Junie B Jones, I was WRITING my own little chapter books. When I was younger, being different didn't really bother me but getting older changed that. You see, we live in a society where everyone wants to be "politically correct" and it's hard for people like me to mesh well with those kind of individuals. I think for myself, and I don't really ever care about what it causes someone else to think (in most cases). I learned a very long time ago that when you follow the crowd, you become a number.

How you Gone Win if you Ain't Right Within?

How you gone win if you ain't right within? I told myself that I was going to wait until I knew the best way to approach this topic but I've come to the conclusion that there really is no "right way" so I'll just do it MY way. This week I'm going to give it to you straight, no chaser and if I make you gut check, mission accomplished. I want to talk about my decision to let go of protective styling and anything that makes me forget about IMANI. Next week will make a month since I started my loc journey yet within this month, I've learned so much about myself. Never in my life have I been able to just wear MY hair. Yes, I've worn it in it's natural state but you have never once seen my hair no

The People Pleaser

How could I ever have the nerve to say no if I already know how the results will go? How dare I have the guts to choose me? I’m the people pleaser and that’s all I can be. I suffer in silence despite how I feel. I wear a bright smile but my pain is real. I don’t know what it’s like to put myself first. I actually think it’s my gift which has made things worse. Last night while I was crying and there was no one to call, I realized why this was and made sense if it all. If I tell the world “I got this” then that’s what they’ll believe. But if I say I need a helping hand then that’s what I’ll conceive. I understand now why people have friends. Why it’s important to hear “it’ll

God Bless them 20 somethings..

You HAVE to gain the ability to get real with yourself if you're going to make it through your 20's still sane, and I mean REALLY real. Why are you really feeling depressed? Is it because you lack something? Let me guess, money? I can't speak for all people my age because some of you really do have it all together with your 9-5 but for the rest of us out here on struggle land, lack of money accounts for almost 80% of why we feel like we are depressed in most cases. It's HARD constantly focusing on how you're going to pay for this sometimes wondering how you're going to make it to friday with $50 to your name for the next 2 weeks but it's even harder when you MAKE it hard and you know that yo


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